You partner complains more about the quality of your presence than the quantity of it.
For a masculine being who is on purpose, you owning your purpose and then creating the space to show up and love your feminine partner deeply & ravish her heart open a few days each week, is more trustable than being half present every day of the week.
Most masculine partners won’t risk showing up in this way because they’re afraid they’ll lose love.
If the feminine isn’t receiving enough deep quality presence, she will feel malnourished and may become angry and resentful.
If your relationship is primarily long distance, rather than show up to a Skype call and ask her how her day was, create practice dates, in which you powerfully own and command her for one hour, or create structures for each sharing “5 Things I’m Missing About You,” “What I’m Grateful For About You,” “What I Love and Appreciate About You” etc.
Whether you see her in-person a few days a week, or on Skype, get clear about when you can really be there for her and then give her your best practice. Bringing consistency and integrity around when you can and cannot show up fully to your feminine partner will make you more trustable and will create a more sustainable relationship.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=ShgfkOiAPeM - Trauma therapist Roger Jackson and Togetherness founder Adam Wilder discuss the role of anger, why it can be seen as taboo to express it and how to cultivate a healthy and enriching relationship with it.
Women can lose their desire for sex, if they have lost the respect for their partner!
An example: The man may have a leader position at work , but he does not take intiative and co-responsibility at home , and leaves the responsibility to his partner. Or he lets his partner make most of the dissions in the relationship. She can then loose respect for her partner, expecially if she is very feminine.
How can you as a woman continue to have respect for your partner ?
How can you, as a man, help your wife to keep having respect for you?
- do you as a man need to take more initiative ect. ?
Try to cultivate your masculine energy and make things happen, take initiative, surprise her, help her with household, duties ect.
According to a couples attatchment therapist you then can prefer a more "cold" and withdrawn partner. You can also be less sexual. Some men become more sexual and they use sex as a way to regulate their nerveussystem.
Stress provides plenty of heat - therefore the masculine will not be attracted to heat but cold. It is a good idea if your partner withdraws a bit and become a bit "cold".
Both men and women have got the masculine and the feminine. The feminine needs to talk their way out of stress (getting nurture and care), the masculine needs to act their way of it and find their own solutions.
Transition time: The masculine needs transition time. They go into their "nothing box" and need longer transition time after work ect.(5-30 min. doing "nothing"). The masculine shifts slowly and the feminine shifts fast. Transition time: meditate, playing computer games, on the way home from work (bus, 🚆 train), changing TV channels, staring, fishing ect.
The feminine can't really multi task, but the feminine can shift quickly between different kind of tasks ect. It can also be a good idea also for the feminine to take some transition time.
A revolutionary and hopeful look at depression as a silent epidemic in men that manifests as workaholism, alcoholism, rage, difficulty with intimacy, and abusive behavior by the cofounder of Harvard’s Gender Research Project.
Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced psychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in men—that men hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigma of depression’s “un-manliness.” Problems that we think of as typically male—difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, and rage—are really attempts to escape depression. And these escape attempts only hurt the people men love and pass their condition on to their children.
This groundbreaking book is the “pathway out of darkness” that these men and their families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He mixes penetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his own experiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and the father of two young sons.
Amazon.com Review When Terrence Real was studying to be a therapist, he accepted the notion that women suffered depression at rates several times that of men. Now he believes that conventional wisdom is wrong, that there has been a great cultural cover-up of depression in men. Real is convinced of the existence of a mental illness that is passed from fathers to sons in the form of rage, workaholism, distanced relationships from loved ones, and self-destructive behaviors ranging from stupid choices at work and in love to drug and alcohol abuse. Men reading I Don't Want to Talk About It will probably recognize themselves in every chapter, while women will recognize their partners--and, of course, both sexes will see their fathers in a new light
Masculine - feminine energy practise demonstration. Young man who identifies with the masculine but has a lot of feminine energy and sensitivity gets help to get more in contact with his healthy masculine energy/power.
What is a masculine man and how am I in my feminine energy?
A man who is in his masculine energy is not necessarily the prototype of a so-called ‘masculine’ man. So if you are thinking big muscles or a silent man who can not accommodate either yours or his own feelings, then it is not a man who is in his masculine energy. Even if he LOOKS LIKE a masculine man.
A masculine man wants to give. The masculine energy is first and foremost rewarding. The vast majority of men wants to give to the woman they have chosen. Yes, they often want to give to many women. I'm not talking about being unfaithful, but they might be holding the door for women, showing care for an elderly woman, who can't find her purse at the supermarket, helping a colleague make her internet work, or getting something fixed in his girlfriends home.
If a man does not feel that he can help or contribute with anything, he easily loses the meaning of staying in a relationship, and then he will withdraw emotionally or choose to leave the woman, because there is no need for him.
So giving is simply fundamental to his self-esteem. Therefore, he fits with a woman who is in her feminine energy, which is the receiving energy....
A friend recently invited me to intuitively feel into the balance of masculine and feminine that is natural for me, and I am 70 percent feminine and 30 percent masculine.
She admired how at peace I was with this, imagining that I would perhaps have a reaction to being more feminine than masculine, but this isn't the case for me I love it I so deeply love the feminine, the feminine me, the way it feels to be in intimate, inspired communion with Her I don't feel a desire to be more masculine I feel quite content and embodied in my masculinity I feel Him so beautifully honoring and serving my feminine Listening, revering, inviting Her sweet, playful, wild, passionate expression to embody me Masculinity for me is being present with Her, being in integrity with Her Trusting Her, never forcing Her into non-mutual movement Who is She? The She within me and the She within other, within All, for other, All, is me Despite feeling quite grounded in my masculine, there is a coming to terms with not often embodying a form of masculinity that something in me imagines will attract what I want and need A more directly penetrating masculine perhaps, a polarizing force, activating arousal in women A more future focused, initiating, action-oriented, taking care of business sort of masculine I am perhaps a feminine man more than a masculine man And this is so beautiful to me My balance leaving me largely surrendered Drifting, softening, Being Trusting that inspired action will find me as it does, trusting, communing with the still and anxious moments in between Nothing needing to happen, yet so inspired to dance with Her, as Her, with those mutually magnetized to me Whispering, screaming goodbye to whatever this may not include as I settle into the miraculous beauty of the authentic, moment to moment me I happen to be.