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Post by tnr9 on Jan 1, 2022 12:50:58 GMT
Just popping in to say I am mid 50s….as in 54…..and this is truly the best time of my life. Although I am not in a relationship and still have occasional anxious/avoidant responses…..I feel I am finally able to be me and be ok in it! One of the best things I did was finding a somatic experiencing therapist to work on all the trauma I held in my body. It was so surprising to me how I had numbed my body through the years…it meant I was unable to define where I ended and someone else else began. As I addressed the boundary of “me”….I was able to take things less personally, I was able to stand for myself, I was able to dwell less and I was able to heal old perspectives which made me feel responsible for others and made them responsible for me….I now own my life and my life only…phew…huge relief. 🧡🧡🧡 Hi, happy 50-something! I didn't know! Thanks….being this age also made the whole B thing feel more crazy just because I felt I was being 10 in a late 40s body….so glad that time is behind me.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 9, 2022 17:16:20 GMT
🧡🧡🧡 Hi, happy 50-something! I didn't know! Thanks….being this age also made the whole B thing feel more crazy just because I felt I was being 10 in a late 40s body….so glad that time is behind me. I really have to wonder if hormonal changes played into that for you tnr9! I hadn't struggled with actual anxiety (the nervous, activated kind) for a long long time before midlife. I found myself taken over by that at times until I found some herbal support for hormones. I can imagine it would really exacerbate attachment anxiety. But, I'm glad you're doing better, it's a big accomplishment to move out of that and into more security and peace .
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Post by seeking on Jan 10, 2022 0:38:39 GMT
Thanks for setting the stage for turning 50 being okay. I actually smiled the night before I turned 50 and realized my 40s were just damn nonstop trauma. And I'm so glad they're over now. And looking forward to being an adult, and having done my work (and continuing to) and hopefully reaping some of the benefits of what that means, and earned secure, etc.
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