Emotional attachment and Sexual Intimacy

UPDATE:
Well I had my plan on how to deal with my concerns with my DA. We went to Opening Day together downtown and I got drunk. I have so much going on with my family, work, health and relationship that I should not have been drinking. We were having fun and then he began to nit pic and criticize me. I lost it and and began crying very hard about all my issues we were at home by then.

Needless to say we got into a fight (he had been drinkink too) at one point he gave in and held me while I cried but later that night he said I can’t be myself around you, I am always second guessing and because of this I love you but do not feel in love with you. He aslo added that he was unsure if we were meant to be together and being a family is currently off the table. All of these things were things he was taking back that he had declared on his own no pressure in anyway from me. I went home and we had some texting and he wanted to meet for lunch I canceled. 3 days later I called him and told him that I thought about us, our struggles, and were we are at. I told him that in my opinion he has always viewed our relationship as exclusively dating no connection deeper than that and I have been trying/ forcing a deeper connection some unity between us . That he was simple not there. I agreed that being a family was currently off the table and there is no need to go to therapy because that is not the level of relationship we currentlny have. I told him I valued is effort and listed all the things I enjoy about being with him. I told him that the only realistic disccusion to have at this point was weather our personal relationship goals are still in line and if we want to continuue to trying to get to build on the connection we do have. I stayed very clearly what I want and he said all the right things and we left it at that. He has texted all his doubts and I have been very understanding, nonjudgmental and positive.

So basically he is getting what he wants and the relationship is back to casual see where it goes, he wants to get together on Friday. The problem is I think I have run out of patience and I don’t want to be around him right now. I am so angry that he came back into my life and made all these declarations and then took them all back in less than two months. Of corse he does not see how his taking everything back should be such a big deal and how I can’t just be happy in the relationship. Why can’t I see that he is not out to get me and that he wants to be in the relationship and he I matter to him.
Any advice ? Can anyone help me to understand why he is all over the map and doesn’t see how his contradictions would effect me and relationship. Why is it that he can express himself fully and I am expected to take it and I can not express anything with out causing a huge issue?