robin
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Post by robin on May 14, 2018 18:44:56 GMT
szorn2296 when I ended it with him the first time he didn’t say much either. Just said best to accept it. Not point argue about this anymore. Maybe I just wasn’t ready. Completely opposite to what he said to me before. I’m willing to bet my left hand he has 0 remorse and is completely happy to move on thinking it was just me. Not a fucking doubt. I’m not gonna stick around and think he will wake up from all of this and realise what a massive A-hole he’s been accusing me of all the things he said about me and all his fault finding. The only regret I had was I didn’t tell him to F off for saying all those terrible things to me. I still do care about him deep down but I’d move on long before he becomes a decent person. if he is FA is there the possibility that his reaction was paralysis from the confrontation? Perhaps it is well that you didn't resort to cursing him. I know that the balance between compassion/anger is difficult at the time, however when you recall the interaction I think you will feel better about your restraint. I always regret my harsh words. |
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Post by nottheonion on May 14, 2018 19:21:28 GMT
robin he knew it was coming. I tried breaking it off in person but he said we should give it some time. I just couldn’t do it. It was too draining for me and he showed no effort to be in it 100%. All he could offer was saying he has doubts whenever was convenient to him. So I broke it off over texts a few days after and he accepted it. No intent to work on things whatsoever. Which was not surprising to me. I would never swear at him, ever. I just feel really frustrated that I landed myself in this situation and ivenot stopped thinking about since. I think the kindest thing I could do to myself at this point is to exit his life completely.
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Post by nottheonion on May 14, 2018 20:55:33 GMT
Guys I’ve just blocked my ex and I deactivated all my social media. I’ll be gone from his life completely before he even knows it. I don’t want to have any false hope thinking he’d change or apologise to me one day. He most likely won’t. Definitely not when he can still reach out to me any time.
The best thing I could do for myself is to completely disappear from his life and leave him no opportunity to know how I get on. Just completely gone.
If he does change one day and wants to try again, he will find a way.
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Post by yasmin on May 14, 2018 21:53:10 GMT
Thanks robin It really was traumatic. It transpired after almost 2 years of not knowing where / why he had gone that he had a brain injury from a fall, which caused his disappearance. Several years on he is still in treatment. I genuinely had no clue for a very long time - it wasn't apparent there was anything wrong with him because it was a delayed effect. So at least in the long term I had an explanation, but honestly, at the time and for a long of years I think I was so deeply traumatised that it triggered huge things from my childhood and lack of trust in other people |
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