Dating tips attatchment styles, the 7 love phases

Dating profiles:
Dating: You can use dating apps or dating sites. Apps are more for ambivalent and disorganized attatched, as they need and like to move fast while dating sites are better suited to the dismissive. Secures will Often go on dating sites but likes smaller dating sites. They dont use too much time writing.
Weather you are using an app or a dating site can also depend on your age.

Pictures:
Get a professional photo taken. Not everyone is equally good in pictures. The picture must be natural. A portrait photo and a full body image are good. We All like different types of bodies. Talk to the photografer so That your personality Will Be shown in the pictures.

Your clothes and makeup.
Wear clothes That You like to wear in your everyday life. And one or two pictures where You are more dressed Up.
Use natural makeup.

Do not use pictures where you wear sunglasses.
Also no pictures where you stand with a glass of beer/vine/a drink or where there is alcohol in the picture.
If you use a selfie picture it must be a really good picture. Otherwise drop selfie pictures on your profile.
Use pictures where people can see your eyes.

As a Woman do not use pictures taken With your kids or With your pets.
No pictures where theres is clutter in the the background, a messy bed, a messy kitchen ect
No pictures where you are driving your car.
No pictures With other People in the photos.

Use pictures in invoriments That You enjoy. Building in the background if You like arcitecture or You like to travel, the ocean in the background ect.

Use two scenarios from your love vision in your dating profile text.

Remember You only have to find one partner.

IT is also important to filter out the wrong ones in your profile text.

Put scenarios from your lovevision into your dating profile:

What is good to write in your dating profile:
It's about attracting the right one and scaring the wrong ones away.
You have to write a history with your profile. You have to create an image in the other person, a mood in the other.

Ex. write:
- We're sitting on a blanket in the woods. The sun is going down and the trees are casting shadows on the ground. We sit with a picnic basket and we have sushi and champagne in the backet.. We toast and smile at each other and give eachother a quick kiss before we take a sip of champagne.

Or:
We wake up slowly together in the morning in the weekend. My hair is messy and you smile at me with a loving gaze and you give me a hug. We kiss each other good morning and we get up and make brunch together in the kictchen.

You merge the above into your dating profile.

Write two times With the other person.
Make one phonecall
Then date irl for 1-2 hours in a public place.

Stephen Porges romantic relationships
m.youtube.com/watch?v=EfkmuNm55us

Safety and social engagement first

Falling in love/Who are You attracted to:
The other sends you a look that makes you uneasy on the unconscious level.
The subconscious is like a video camera filming 
everything that happens.

The way the other person looks at you.
There must be security and excitement at the same time.
The other person must both be able to make you uneasy and be able to give you security at the same time.
You fall in love with the redeeming aspect and the offending aspect in the other person.

The other person compliments sides within yourself that you no longer have access to in yourself.
The other person you fall in love with also activates your your childhoodwound/ pain (your shame).

Most People have got a wound. The other person is just the one Who activates your wound, But wound stems within yourself even if You think that it is the other person who makes you feel your shame/the way you feel.
jebkinnisonforum.com/thread/2224/never-fall-love-wrong-person

Thanks for the link Anne.

``"People who are dismissive and avoidant are more likely to 'rotate' people," he continues. "Ghosting is another way of basically not having any conflict, right? People who are conflict avoidant would be natural ghosters, because no muss, no fuss—you just disappear. So it's 'good for me, and if it's not good for you, then sorry.'"''

iz42 Ambivalent means anxious. It’s the AP style.
Disorganized is FA.

What type of woman would make a good partner?

Here’s the bottom line: Look for a woman who can receive her mother’s love. If she has remained trusting and vulnerable to her mother’s love, if she delights in receiving her mother’s tenderness and care, she will receive similarly from you. Your relationship will also be strengthened if her mother and father—whether they stayed together or not—demonstrated care and respect for one another. Now let’s turn the tables.

What type of man would make a good partner?

Here’s the bottom line: Look for a man who reveres his father. If he credits his father for being his role model, guiding him through life’s challenges, you’re in good hands. A man who admires his father often wants to emulate what he admires most in him. Choose a man who feels loved and supported by both parents, yet sees himself as being a bit more aligned with his father. If he was his mother’s emotional partner, and was distant with his father, don’t expect an easy road ahead.

If he attempted to satisfy his mother’s unmet needs and supply her with what she felt she couldn’t get from her husband, proceed cautiously. This man is likely to have difficulty appreciating your needs. Fearing that you will want too much from him, the way his mother did, he is likely to put his guard up by shutting down physically or emotionally when he feels he’s getting too close to you.

Our partner’s relationship with his or her parents can be a trusted indicator of how frustrating or fulfilling our relationship can be. If there’s one takeaway, it would be this: A solid bond with the same-sexed parent can be insurance that your relationship will endure. With this principle as your guiding light, you now hold an essential piece of the relationship puzzle and can be more prepared when it’s time to pick your life partner.

If your date / partner haven't had a good relationship with one or both his/her parent's, ask if the person has tried to repair the brake in the bond irl or through therapy ect. It can also be done even if the person's parents are dead through different kinds of techniques.

Dating when you've had a bad childhood
youtu.be/Papr5yrNLjo