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Post by anne12 on Feb 2, 2020 18:27:40 GMT
m.youtube.com/watch?v=S9T54qGziwoThe Experience Of The Feminine Walking In The World John and Kendra bring awareness to the experience of the feminine walking around in the world. They begin with an experiment that John learned from Alison Armstrong, in which they ask how many men in the room felt legitimately unsafe in the past 2 weeks. A few men raise their hands. They ask the same question to the women in the room and nearly all of them raise their hands. ....Given that the experience of the feminine in the world often includes feeling unsafe, if you wish that your partner relax into her feminine, you must include this in awareness as you lead her. Be meticulous when holding the structure and communicating your plans for your next date. For example, “Here is the address of the restaurant. Call an Uber and I’ll meet you out on the curb at 8.” That kind of awareness is required for her nervous system to relax. Most males are either unconscious or avoidant of the feminine form. The experience of the male gaze as a sexually desirous experience is invasive, so if a masculine can practice seeing the feminine heart, or “the cosmos” through her eyes, and train himself to be in awe of the “great feminine” through a particular feminine being, this will deepen the moment. .....
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Post by anne12 on Feb 5, 2020 17:04:37 GMT
m.youtube.com/watch?v=dvlR2I54Y7gEver get caught up in the chemistry of a relationship, only to realize later you weren’t compatible? Jay Shetty reminds us that most of our visions of compatibility and chemistry come from the media. We expect one person to be everything in our lives, but that’s not possible. In this video, Jay Shetty explains three foundations to compatibility: the ability to communicate well, common personal goals, and honesty and comfort in expressing one’s soul with each other.
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Post by anne12 on Feb 6, 2020 12:06:43 GMT
You first get ready to date a new person on the mental level. Many people starts dating at this level after a break up from a close relationship. They think that they are ready when they ask themselves: "Am I ready to date yet ?": yes or no If it's a yes = Then go! But maybe they are not ready on the emotional level. Or maybe they are not ready on the instinctive level. Quistion: Why is it that I still have a thought that we should be together again? Why is it that I don't want him to know if I see someone else or not know if he does? (We have two children together. It's been years since we called each other husband and wife) We = my ex husband and I. Reply: It's about not always finishing our relationship with our ex on ALL 3 levels. jebkinnison.boards.net/thread/1169/healing-broken-before-changing-partner |
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Post by anne12 on Feb 6, 2020 21:22:00 GMT
Where I have previously chosen boyfriends who reminded me of my parents, now I do not meet anyone at all. What is going on ?
You may have shut down and you have given up. You have shut down your life energy. That's why you don't attract anyone. You must make yourself vulnerable again. Easy going reletionships where we see where thibngs goes, often leads nowhere.
It's just a self-protection. There is often trauma energy in a given Up state.
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Post by anne12 on Feb 25, 2020 13:42:54 GMT
Dating when you are drunk/tipsy:
Alcohol helps to soothe your senses and lover your boundaries. Alcohol makes you happy and outgoing and it gives you the courage to contact the opposite sex.
You are not able to be fully precent when you are drunk
/a bit tipsy.
It's not about falling in love, but purely about attraction. There is also the risk of having fast sex when drunk and there's a risk meeting people who becomes unfaithfull when drunk. You can also easily overlook your deal-breakers when drunk/tipsy.
If you want a real partner then have fun while out in town but date (and try to find a partner) when you aren't drunk another day instead.
Find out what it is that you want in lovelife.
Do you just want to have sex and flirt and have fun and can you handle a rejection the next day - then go.
If not and you are looking for something serious then do something else.
Never, ever beg a person, who rejects you - it will damage your self-worth!
Accept the persons no and move on.
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Post by anne12 on Feb 28, 2020 2:17:26 GMT
Disregulated People who are in a kind of freeze state and low on energy/who are nummed out are more prone to attract people with dysregulated prepretator energy. People with prepretator energy say that they can spot people in freeze/they can feel their low energy miles away. For examble at a bar.
If you are low on energy, in freeze/shut down and not well regulated be carefull because you can attract these type of people without being aware of it. You are in risk of being hunted like wounded/weak animals in the wild. You are also not able to detect danger the same way as if you were wellregulated.
(Peter Levine)
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Post by anne12 on Feb 29, 2020 15:06:29 GMT
If you have become disillusioned about dating:
How do you find the joy of dating again.
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Allow yourself to mourn what ever IT is you have given up. Use the paradoxical method of change.
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Look for signs that love can succeed for some people.
See if there are some of your friends who can make love succeed or watch movies where love succeds (realistic movies)
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Cultivate the love for yourself and find out how to do this even more.
(make a love vision for yourself and follow it)
When you are disillusioned, you are often also sad about being disillusioned.
When you are disillusioned you have partially given up.
4)
When you have not got what you needed, then it can be good to work on getting your power back to yourself again. To work with the anger in a controlled way.
(Two chair anger exercise ect)
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Post by anne12 on Mar 2, 2020 20:34:37 GMT
The universe doesn't always give you what you ask for! The universe gives you 'what you need - Because you have to learn from it ... because there are wounds from the past that have not healed.
For example. You want a nice and sweet partner, but you keep falling for types who don't want a permanent relationship.
Result. You end up repeatedly as the wounded party
Solution.
Start appreciating yourself. Treat yourself like you were your own dream partner.
How would you like to look at your loved one?
With loving and caring eyes? With pride?
How will you speak to your beloved?
With respect. With Interest. With a loving voice?
What will you give your loved one? Loving attention, care, understanding?
The Universe Law of Attraction says 'Equal Attract Equal'.
While you wait for the dream partner to announce his arrival you begin to 'give yourself ALL the self-care and self-love that you long for from your loved one.
Result. When you treat yourself with respect and love, you will quietly, calmly but surely raise your vibration and life energy.
Your self-esteem and confidence will increase.
Equal attracts equal '! And suddenly, like out of the blue, you have attracted a healthy and secure partner
♥️
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Post by anne12 on Mar 5, 2020 12:32:24 GMT
Before you get married again, wait.
Wait until you have seen your lover's anger / remorse
Is it cross-border?
Is it sarcastic and humiliating?
Or
Is it respectful and clear?
How do you deal with the anger of your loved one?
Do you set clear and respectful boundaries yourself?
Or
Are you holding back your anger and do you swallow the humiliation ?
Do you excuse the anger from your loved one towards your children?
Before moving in with your loved one, wait.
Wait because your kids can't choose whether to have a loving and caring 'BONUS parent' - but you can!
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Post by anne12 on Mar 6, 2020 9:00:13 GMT
If in doubt, ask yourself:
1) does he/she make me happy - are you being charged/filled up and feeling supported and not drained ? Are there too many conflicts?
2) Does he/she get the best out of you? You know who the best version of yourself is (think about the feeling you get when you are with the people you already know who gets the best out of you when you are with them or you do the activities that makes you happy)
3) Do you dare to be honest and vulnerable when you are with him/her ? Do you dare and can you be yourself as you are?
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Post by anne12 on Mar 25, 2020 8:56:26 GMT
TEST:
How many of these signs of frugality can you say yes to?
(they are listed in random order)
You write many messages together with one, and it takes a long time before you meet - if you meet at all
You say yes to a date, even if you can not see that you have anything in common
You compromise with your dealbreakers (alcohol, children, distance, etc.)
You are not really interested
You have not noticed if the heart, stomach and head agree to date him / her
You think your communication is not really in flow or bad maybe with quick misunderstandings
You experience that the other person either has very long response times to your inquiries - or it changes
You feel that the other is a little overwhelmingly intense or distancing
It seems that there is something strange about that person, without you necessarily being able to concretize it
You have marked red warning lights (quick to be "on", do not do what they say, negative statements about exes and in general others, perversion, etc.)
You agree to meet privately on a first date
When you are on a date,
- you let the other one talk and take up space
- are you preoccupied with what the other person thinks (about you)
- are you so insecure that you are not yourself at all (attractive)
- do you find yourself with the other person arriving late (without good reason and without notifying you in good time beforehand)
- you stay longer on the date, even if you would rather say goodbye
- kissing or having sex even if you do not really want to (yet)
- find you with the other canceling at the last minute (without good reason and without notifying you in good time)
After the date
- you come to terms with the fact that you do not hear anything for several days
- you keep in touch and maybe even see each other again, even if you HAVE already noticed that the other is NOT a potential life partner (soulmate) ("one bird in the hand is better than 10 on the roof" strategy)
- do you agree that there are many excuses that it is not possible to see eachother again within the next 2 weeks
- say yes to last-minute invitations - where the other could have suggested it earlier
- overhears red warning flags (there is no connection between words and action, you get spammed with messages, the other says "I love you
- the person suddenly becomes unpredictable
If you can say yes to 3 or more of the above points, you are probably too frugal to truly experience true love.
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Post by anne12 on Mar 25, 2020 14:04:20 GMT
Falling in love with someone who is not ready or not interested is the safest way of the unconscious to make sure that love cannot come into your life. The finger points back at you.
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Post by anne12 on Mar 26, 2020 13:08:40 GMT
What is it like for you to be feminine and a woman? Do you think that this is not a relevant question, because you are just a human being?. If you want a masculine partner it is important that you can receive with grace. That you rest in yourself and you are open and you appreciate those gifts that are given to you. That you are able to keep your heart open no matter what happens jebkinnisonforum.com/thread/3080/living-life-open-heartWrite down: Which role models have you had in your life? How were they women ? Positive role models and negative role models. What qualities have your positive role models possessed ? . How was your mother as a woman? How was it in your family to be a woman? What have your role models taught you ?. What positive role models have you had, what was nice and atteactive About Them ? The essence of the feminine is to recieve with Grace. To receive with grace is also to appreciate yourself and to appreciate the person who gives. |
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Post by anne12 on Mar 28, 2020 13:21:39 GMT
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Post by anne12 on Apr 8, 2020 19:15:09 GMT
Do I have to love myself before I can find a partner ?
This is a myth. You learn to love yourself by beeing seen heard, and understood and loved by another person..
Do the coming into secure attatchment exercise:
Coming into secure attatchment exersice: (all attatchment styles)
• Think of a person whom you may or could have counted on. One, as you have or have had a positive relationship with. It may be in less time. Or just the person at the counter in the supermarket, who smiled kindly to you. If you can not think of any person, then Think of an animal ... or maybe nature or something spiritual
• Feel the love, the warmth, the support, the care, the presence, the friendliness or whatever is positive in this regard
• Notice what mood it gives you
• Notice in your body what feelings it gives in the body. Typical sensations are: Warmth, calm, weight, relaxation, ease, space, joy, the trimblings, champagne bubbles ect. But there may also be excitement, fear, lack, longing, sadness, sorrow or even anger. Give it permission and accept these feelings / sensations and give them love / warmth / care if you can
• Repeat this activity several times a day
When you feel the sensations from the exercise your old part of the brain thinks that it is happening right now.
If you feel that you switch between thinking of someone secure and someone insecure then pendulate - pendulate back to the secure resourse.
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