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Post by tnr9 on Apr 23, 2018 17:16:11 GMT
I think an AP can view this as a power imbalance, and that a rug was snatched from underneath them. What does the DA feel when the relationship is in this state? Nothing, as viewed by the AP. Like they couldn't care less. You don't matter. A DA AP pairing is painful..... To the AP. Hmmm...somehow this thread took on a totally different direction than was my intention. I was simply trying to discern whether having low self esteem was only a characteristic of someone with FA or AP.....based on the responses....I guess a person who distances, but has low self esteem then falls into the FA camp? |
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Post by Jaeger on Apr 23, 2018 17:42:42 GMT
I think an AP can view this as a power imbalance, and that a rug was snatched from underneath them. What does the DA feel when the relationship is in this state? Nothing, as viewed by the AP. Like they couldn't care less. You don't matter. A DA AP pairing is painful..... To the AP. Hmmm...somehow this thread took on a totally different direction than was my intention. I was simply trying to discern whether having low self esteem was only a characteristic of someone with FA or AP.....based on the responses....I guess a person who distances, but has low self esteem then falls into the FA camp? The way I see it, based on what I know of attachment theory, low self esteem and aware of it would be FA. If the awareness isn't there, DA. |
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