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Post by faithopelove on Jan 1, 2020 4:16:05 GMT
I havent really 'dated' much in 15 years or so. Guys just came into my life living it. Ive been either single or in a relationship, mostly just single. Funny so many of us are 40+ here. Im 46. 'Problem' for me personally most men my age I come across look So Old and I look more mid 30's.(married or single, just men in general my age I come across/meet) I tend to be attracted to those a bit younger than me over men my age. My short stints on dating sites, meh. Maybe we should all date each other! hahahaha - Same issue here. I look younger than 40, but the younger guys sometimes still want to start a family or I don’t feel we have as much in common if they are under 40. The physical attraction has to be there- and I don’t but I’m attracted to avoidants bc I’m AP. If you show me a pic and I’ve never met the man I either am physically attracted or not. I know what I like!! |
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Post by amber on Jan 1, 2020 4:33:16 GMT
I am in my 30s, but I relate. This may be something else, but the last FA I dated was aged, though we were around the same age. I really think it was the emotional burdens he carries that have aged him. I tend to date slightly younger (up to four years ish). I actually have found more maturity in the younger guys, maybe it's because the younger guys looking to date a bit older are more serious about stability and maturity? Though this could be a number of things... It honestly annoys me we even have to talk about this as if we are doing something "different." Please, yes, let's create this reality show.
I try to stick in a 5-10 year age gap over or under. Most men Ive dated/had long terms with were 7 years or less age gap. Just naturally played out that way.
Ha ha, reality show.
mrob, what ya doing next week?  You be pimping here. hehe.
Ha ha yes where do all the men on this forum live?! Australia?! |
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Post by faithopelove on Jan 1, 2020 4:34:21 GMT
Well, there aren’t many men on this forum?!!
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Post by faithopelove on Jan 1, 2020 5:37:07 GMT
mrob I'm going to add to this that you have commented several times on masculinity and feminism that we aren't in the 1950's anymore but you seem to apply that selectively. This can be a fear for women too. @janedoe - I’ll definitely be more careful and safeguard any of my property if I remarry- I didn’t with my ex-husband and he made out with half the proceeds of a home my dad built. In hindsight, I should’ve had a pre-nup. He would’ve signed anything since he brought no monetary value to our marriage. Now, 3 years later in the courts, I’m still pursuing him for the money he kept and courts say he owes me from the house proceeds. |
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Post by mrob on Jan 1, 2020 7:50:21 GMT
mrob I'm going to add to this that you have commented several times on masculinity and feminism that we aren't in the 1950's anymore but you seem to apply that selectively. This can be a fear for women too. I think that’s a reasonable point, but my experience is that I’ve only come across one woman who took this into account, and it seems to be a consistent experience of my friends. So yes, subjective. |
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Post by mrob on Jan 1, 2020 7:51:23 GMT
I try to stick in a 5-10 year age gap over or under. Most men Ive dated/had long terms with were 7 years or less age gap. Just naturally played out that way.
Ha ha, reality show.
mrob, what ya doing next week? You be pimping here. hehe.
Ha ha yes where do all the men on this forum live?! Australia?! Lol, amber, this one does. |
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Post by mrob on Jan 1, 2020 7:52:43 GMT
I havent really 'dated' much in 15 years or so. Guys just came into my life living it. Ive been either single or in a relationship, mostly just single. Funny so many of us are 40+ here. Im 46. 'Problem' for me personally most men my age I come across look So Old and I look more mid 30's.(married or single, just men in general my age I come across/meet) I tend to be attracted to those a bit younger than me over men my age. I am in my 30s, but I relate. This may be something else, but the last FA I dated was aged, though we were around the same age. I really think it was the emotional burdens he carries that have aged him. I tend to date slightly younger (up to four years ish). I actually have found more maturity in the younger guys, maybe it's because the younger guys looking to date a bit older are more serious about stability and maturity? Though this could be a number of things... It honestly annoys me we even have to talk about this as if we are doing something "different." Please, yes, let's create this reality show. The non ratings season we’re in would be perfect for such a train wreck!! |
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Post by serenity on Jan 1, 2020 8:00:36 GMT
I am in my 30s, but I relate. This may be something else, but the last FA I dated was aged, though we were around the same age. I really think it was the emotional burdens he carries that have aged him. I tend to date slightly younger (up to four years ish). I actually have found more maturity in the younger guys, maybe it's because the younger guys looking to date a bit older are more serious about stability and maturity? Though this could be a number of things... It honestly annoys me we even have to talk about this as if we are doing something "different." Please, yes, let's create this reality show. The non ratings season we’re in would be perfect for such a train wreck!! I need to teach you about VPN and torrents |
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Post by mrob on Jan 1, 2020 12:59:50 GMT
I have absolutely no idea what either of those things are!! Lol.
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Post by mrob on Jan 2, 2020 22:06:07 GMT
The non ratings season we’re in would be perfect for such a train wreck!! I need to teach you about VPN and torrents Well, that show had an airing last night! I don't think too many people ran off screaming, but amber and I were in the same city and caught up for coffee and very interesting conversation. It was good to be able to talk about this stuff in an open way with somebody who is familiar with it. One of the things I so love about this forum is that we are from such different walks of life, from all over the world, yet there is a warmth between most of us that is special. That bore out last night. |
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Post by serenity on Jan 2, 2020 22:46:49 GMT
I need to teach you about VPN and torrents Well, that show had an airing last night! I don't think too many people ran off screaming, but amber and I were in the same city and caught up for coffee and very interesting conversation. It was good to be able to talk about this stuff in an open way with somebody who is familiar with it. One of the things I so love about this forum is that we are from such different walks of life, from all over the world, yet there is a warmth between most of us that is special. That bore out last night. Oh wow nice mrob and Amber! With everything you've been going through with loved ones/dating partners lately, I am glad that connecting with someone aware from the forum helped. <3 |
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Post by faithopelove on Jan 2, 2020 23:43:20 GMT
I need to teach you about VPN and torrents Well, that show had an airing last night! I don't think too many people ran off screaming, but amber and I were in the same city and caught up for coffee and very interesting conversation. It was good to be able to talk about this stuff in an open way with somebody who is familiar with it. One of the things I so love about this forum is that we are from such different walks of life, from all over the world, yet there is a warmth between most of us that is special. That bore out last night. - That’s great you could meet up!! 😊 |
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You be pimping here. hehe.