Post by tnr9 on Feb 17, 2021 11:21:31 GMT
So.....now that you feel calmer...I would suggest you go back to working on your anxious behaviors. The fact that you have only been on this medication for 1 day and still felt the desire to ask her if she is willing to give the relationship another try indicates that you are still stuck in an AP loop of seeking a different answer. What if I do this...what if I do that.....believe me, I have been there. But it doesn’t work because it feels manipulative and needy to the avoidant who senses you are not honoring what he/she said about needing time. Believe me...if she changes her mind...she will let you know.....but right now, you have a friendship and nothing more. So if you are ok with a friendship...great...if not....you may want to re evaluate your timeline above. I was madly in love with B and tried for over a year to win him back after he broke up with me....he would come over and we would hang out and watch movies etc. His actions and words sometimes did not match up and that gave me “hope”....but it also kept me “stuck” because again, I was allowing him to determine what kind of relationship he and I had...even though I knew I could not just be friends. Had I really thought things through, I should have made a clean break to let my heart heal and work on me.