Feminine / masculine energy is not gender specific.
We need to be in contact with both and so do men.
It’s how we use our energy.
But the feminine or masculine energy in ourselves and in others can sometimes be out of balance.
We need masculine energy in our daily life. Working, taking Care of the kids ect.
Your inner feminine vs masculine sits in the primal part of your brain.
If you both want to be in the masculine energy as a couple, that’s totally fine. But sometimes some polarity between the feminine and the masculine can be a good thing when you are together with your partner, are having sex ect.
The feminine:
The feminine power is soft, open, positive, receptive, fluid, intuitive, without direction, seeking, inquiring, flexible, nutureing , radiating the energy of feminine joy and capturing what is necessary in the present. The feminine is designed to be social and good at the emotional.
In our hustle and bustle daily life of action and targeting, the feminine power has been both misunderstood and unseen. Many therefore regard the feminine as something negative. General negative associates: weakness, hysteria, erratic swinging, moody, manipulative, passive, compassionate, immortal, passive aggressive, impoverished, victim like ect.
If you are a woman and are in the masculine: you will be the one who takes the initiatives in the relationship.
You may seem too controlling sometimes. Maybe you can't see this yourself but your partner may find you controlling, harsh or bossy.
If you are a man and you are in the feminine:
You can loose some of your potence and you can have problems with your erection in the relationship and also outside of the relationship.
Or maybe you do not have problems with your sexuallity but your partner looses her attraction to you.
When the masculine sets healthy boundaries it reinforces the attraction of the feminine and it causes the feminine to follow as the feminine then can trusts the masculine. Also if the masculine makes decisions th at takes into account both him/herself and the partner and children, the whole unit. Then the feminine can trust at the masculine at the instinktive level.
The feminine may have difficulty recieving with grace. And the masculine can have difficulty giving "his" gifts.
Sometimes women needs time to do something pleasurable by themselves before they can get into receiving mode with their partner.
Yin and Yang, together form a whole. The dynamics works best when there is a balance between the 2 poles. When you each make up the opposite half.
If you are both in the masculine energy, your friendly relationship can be thriving at best. You will probably be good at different activities together. Maybe you're really competing together. But there will not be much spark.
If you are both in the feminine pole, you can have the most amazing deep and emotional talks. You will feel seen, heard and understood. But again, it is possible that your sex life will die out in the long run
The masculine leads direction and the feminine leads depth and intimacy
If you are in your feminine energy as a woman you can loose respect for your partner
jebkinnisonforum.com/post/38052/If you are a woman and are in the masculine: you will be the one who takes the initiatives in the relationship.
You may seem too controlling sometimes. Maybe you can't see this yourself but your partner may find you controlling, harsh or bossy.
If you are a man and you are in the feminine:
You can loose some of your potence and you can have problems with your erection in the relationship and also outside of the relationship.
Or maybe you do not have problems with your sexuallity but your partner looses her attraction to you.
When the masculine sets healthy boundaries it reinforces the attraction of the feminine and it causes the feminine to follow as the feminine then can trust the masculine. Also if the masculine makes decisions that at takes into account both him/herself and the partner and children, the whole unit. Then the feminine can trust at the masculine at the instinktive level.
The feminine may have difficulty recieving with grace. And the masculine can have difficulty giving "his" gifts.
In principle, a masculine leaning woman and a feminine leaning man should have the relationship and sex life to work out perfect. It just does not always happen. But sometimes.
There are many couples ( in some countries more than others) where the woman has become equally masculine or more masculine than the man. The man has often been passive and feminine, he has left the stearing wheel to the woman. It gives a lot of frustrations for both.
In working life and elsewhere, you as a woman can quite easily use your masculine sides. As a man, you will be converted to a more whole human being when you take on some of the feminine sides.
It is actually really good and enriching for both sexes to develop both the masculine and the feminine sides. We can better live our potential from here. The art is that you compared to a (potential) partner, is in your masculine or feminine pole (typically your gender, but you may have changed to the opposite,).
Outside the relationsship, you can grow both poles, but when you meet up with your (potential) partner, you can choose to be feminie, or masculine.
You can lean 30% feminine and 70% masculine.
A lot of women are more in their masculine energy these days.
If am too much in My masculine energy and stressed out for too long, I will end up getting a burnout (been there, done that) and it also becomes more difficult for me to recieve.
I can totally see the difference in men (and boyfriend) who wants to provide, when I am more receptive, more precent, when My heart is more open, when I am more in My feminine space and I radiate from My feminine energy…and I also notice the difference in myself. I move at a slower pace, it feels like a “lighter” energy and I become more “giggly” = I laugh more. My partner and I have more sex, we flirt more, we are having more fun together ect.
Its also the energy you use/you get when you are having a girls night out….
Being in your feminine energy dosent mean that you dont have boundaries
alexandra - your pridominal inner devine feminine woman will take Care of your boundaries. She is not “cool and boundless”
Your inner woman, the pridorminal woman is wise, powerful, creative, playful, laughing, lively, lovely and easy going. She is not passive at all.
And I am not talking about da/ap dynamics
It can be a problem after you have become secure. Most insecure s dident have good role models in their parents.
Especially we can forget about it when we are getting stressed.
You can invesigate and work with the feminine/ masculine energy in yourself.
There are different ways to release your inner divine woman, depending on when and how she was shut down:
- Clean other people's energies out e.g. out of the vagina if you have had one or more unconscious or self-absorbed lovers/partners
- aesthetics - beautiful things, flowers, scents ect.
- healing through energy exercises
- trauma healing (stress or different kind of traumas)
- arouse the erotic energy
- rituals
- self-pampering
- be in nature
- movements and dances
- to be together with other females in a female community
- breathing (yin brehathing - breathe all the way down to your sex/your pelvic floor / yang breathing - breathe from your sex up into your heart) - (when having sex you can use the yin breath as a woman and the man can use the yang breath). Notise your energy field after the breathing exercise.
- pleasure, especially bodily pleasure -self-touch, breast massage, spaday ect
I just loved when I learned to get in contact with My own inner pridominal Devine feminine woman. She is much wiser than me.