Post by anne12 on Oct 7, 2024 8:36:14 GMT
Do you know the feeling of rage/frustration ect. ?
Has it become more pronounced during peri menopause/ menopause?
Do you feel a new rage?
Do you have a shorter fuse than ever before?
Like you just don’t give a shit?
Are you f*%&-ing tired of doing things for others?
Anger during menopause is a common but often overlooked feeling, and there are many – both natural, understandable and hormonal – reasons why you might be short on steam right now:
Sleep disorders
Hot flashes and night sweats can disrupt sleep, and chronic sleep deprivation can increase irritability and decrease tolerance to stress, leading more quickly to frustration and anger.
Hormonal fluctuations The hormonal changes that many women experience during menopause can make emotions more intense and harder to regulate (just like puberty), and this can be the reason you suddenly want to poke your eyes out at people who jump the queue. in the supermarket or yelling at other people in traffic who are going too slow ... or fast
The inevitable drop in estrogen leading up to and after menopause can create a – relatively – higher testosterone level. Testosterone is associated with energy, vitality and aggression, and can contribute to increased irritability and anger. It doesn't mean that your testosterone level rises during menopause (it doesn't), it just means that your estrogen has completely crashed and that the balance is therefore out of whack.
Estrogen has a calming effect on the brain by influencing the production of serotonin, a "feel-good" neurotransmitter that influences mood. Lower serotonin levels (due to estrogen decline during menopause) can lead to irritability, anxiety and anger. You may know (or remember) the feeling from PMS. And conversely, you may know (or remember) the feel-good feeling at ovulation, when many (due to peaking estrogen) feel more attractive and open to seduction (hot & horny)
The caretaking hormone is out of business Estrogen is also the caretaking hormone. And when it plummets, we no longer have the same patience, and we don't want to serve others in the same way as before. Expectations can infuriate us in entirely new ways. Accumulated excess liability Many menopausal women carry decades of responsibility – both at work and at home (and now perhaps also with sick family members). This burden of responsibility can lead to exhaustion and frustration = anger.
Accumulated excess liability
Many menopausal women carry decades of responsibility – both at work and at home (and now perhaps also with sick family members). This burden of responsibility can lead to exhaustion and frustration = anger.
Mental load
In addition to the practical tasks that women often take on in the family, we also often carry a larger part of the invisible "mental load" – that is, the responsibility for organizing, planning and remembering what needs to be done ... + often also a greater "emotional load" in relation to children and elderly parents.
This invisible work can become overwhelming when menopausal symptoms such as lack of sleep, difficulty concentrating and fatigue set in. It can reinforce the feeling that you never have a break and lead to explosive outbursts of anger when the irritation of "always having to do everything" peaks.
Lack of Recognition
When accumulated responsibility and mental load (over decades) is not acknowledged or shared equally, it can further escalate feelings of frustration, injustice and anger. And during menopause, you may finally reach a breaking point.
Anger is not only negative It is a signal 🚨 Anger shows us our limits. And it's healthy. Especially if we start setting boundaries and expressing them. During – and after – menopause, we can gain access to a new level of wildness. And be less likely to cope or please.
women - through generations - have been so … and adapted that we are allowed to freak out a little, and give room for anger. Many postmenopausal women are becoming more activist and not caring about what others think of them. And it's great because…
Women's anger has always been more taboo than men's, and there has never been status in women's anger. We've been given points for being caregivers, calmers, and peacemakers, and angry women have been seen as insane, crazy, and pathetic. Unattractive. When a woman gets angry—and worse, publicly angry—she is written off as irrational or worse. Women who openly express anger towards men are particularly suspect and repulsive and worst of all: non feminine
Anger Makes Girls Ugly (We've Learned) Women's anger is often called shrill or hysterical, whereas men's anger and loudness are more often seen as a sign of strength and leadership skills. Women who show visible anger in politics and in top positions are often seen as hostile, intransigent and militant. Whereas anger in a businessman is often seen as a sign of strength, determination and dedication. When men make angry music, it's called rock-and-roll; when female musicians use their anger, it steals focus, becomes politicized, problematized and overanalyzed. Women's anger is met with contempt to a greater extent than men's. It is often seen as inconvenient, inappropriate or amusing – simply ridiculous.
Women who show visible anger in politics and in top positions are often seen as hostile, intransigent and militant. Whereas anger in a businessman is often seen as a sign of strength, determination and dedication.
When men make angry music, it's called rock-and-roll; when female musicians use their anger, it steals focus, becomes politicized, problematized and overanalyzed.
Women's anger is met with contempt to a greater extent than men's. It is often seen as inconvenient, inappropriate or amusing – simply ridiculous.
We learn that anger makes us annoying and troublesome, and that our anger will put people off—both those who will hire us and those we want to date. ... and therefore we become world masters at fearing, ignoring, hiding, trivializing or suppressing anger.
And we can no longer do this during menopause, when everything becomes extra fragile. But... maybe it's not just hormonal, maybe you actually have something – real – to be justifiably angry about in your life?
www.drnorthrup.com/why-anger-is-common-during-menopause/
Has it become more pronounced during peri menopause/ menopause?
Do you feel a new rage?
Do you have a shorter fuse than ever before?
Like you just don’t give a shit?
Are you f*%&-ing tired of doing things for others?
Anger during menopause is a common but often overlooked feeling, and there are many – both natural, understandable and hormonal – reasons why you might be short on steam right now:
Sleep disorders
Hot flashes and night sweats can disrupt sleep, and chronic sleep deprivation can increase irritability and decrease tolerance to stress, leading more quickly to frustration and anger.
Hormonal fluctuations The hormonal changes that many women experience during menopause can make emotions more intense and harder to regulate (just like puberty), and this can be the reason you suddenly want to poke your eyes out at people who jump the queue. in the supermarket or yelling at other people in traffic who are going too slow ... or fast
The inevitable drop in estrogen leading up to and after menopause can create a – relatively – higher testosterone level. Testosterone is associated with energy, vitality and aggression, and can contribute to increased irritability and anger. It doesn't mean that your testosterone level rises during menopause (it doesn't), it just means that your estrogen has completely crashed and that the balance is therefore out of whack.
Estrogen has a calming effect on the brain by influencing the production of serotonin, a "feel-good" neurotransmitter that influences mood. Lower serotonin levels (due to estrogen decline during menopause) can lead to irritability, anxiety and anger. You may know (or remember) the feeling from PMS. And conversely, you may know (or remember) the feel-good feeling at ovulation, when many (due to peaking estrogen) feel more attractive and open to seduction (hot & horny)
The caretaking hormone is out of business Estrogen is also the caretaking hormone. And when it plummets, we no longer have the same patience, and we don't want to serve others in the same way as before. Expectations can infuriate us in entirely new ways. Accumulated excess liability Many menopausal women carry decades of responsibility – both at work and at home (and now perhaps also with sick family members). This burden of responsibility can lead to exhaustion and frustration = anger.
Accumulated excess liability
Many menopausal women carry decades of responsibility – both at work and at home (and now perhaps also with sick family members). This burden of responsibility can lead to exhaustion and frustration = anger.
Mental load
In addition to the practical tasks that women often take on in the family, we also often carry a larger part of the invisible "mental load" – that is, the responsibility for organizing, planning and remembering what needs to be done ... + often also a greater "emotional load" in relation to children and elderly parents.
This invisible work can become overwhelming when menopausal symptoms such as lack of sleep, difficulty concentrating and fatigue set in. It can reinforce the feeling that you never have a break and lead to explosive outbursts of anger when the irritation of "always having to do everything" peaks.
Lack of Recognition
When accumulated responsibility and mental load (over decades) is not acknowledged or shared equally, it can further escalate feelings of frustration, injustice and anger. And during menopause, you may finally reach a breaking point.
Anger is not only negative It is a signal 🚨 Anger shows us our limits. And it's healthy. Especially if we start setting boundaries and expressing them. During – and after – menopause, we can gain access to a new level of wildness. And be less likely to cope or please.
women - through generations - have been so … and adapted that we are allowed to freak out a little, and give room for anger. Many postmenopausal women are becoming more activist and not caring about what others think of them. And it's great because…
Women's anger has always been more taboo than men's, and there has never been status in women's anger. We've been given points for being caregivers, calmers, and peacemakers, and angry women have been seen as insane, crazy, and pathetic. Unattractive. When a woman gets angry—and worse, publicly angry—she is written off as irrational or worse. Women who openly express anger towards men are particularly suspect and repulsive and worst of all: non feminine
Anger Makes Girls Ugly (We've Learned) Women's anger is often called shrill or hysterical, whereas men's anger and loudness are more often seen as a sign of strength and leadership skills. Women who show visible anger in politics and in top positions are often seen as hostile, intransigent and militant. Whereas anger in a businessman is often seen as a sign of strength, determination and dedication. When men make angry music, it's called rock-and-roll; when female musicians use their anger, it steals focus, becomes politicized, problematized and overanalyzed. Women's anger is met with contempt to a greater extent than men's. It is often seen as inconvenient, inappropriate or amusing – simply ridiculous.
Women who show visible anger in politics and in top positions are often seen as hostile, intransigent and militant. Whereas anger in a businessman is often seen as a sign of strength, determination and dedication.
When men make angry music, it's called rock-and-roll; when female musicians use their anger, it steals focus, becomes politicized, problematized and overanalyzed.
Women's anger is met with contempt to a greater extent than men's. It is often seen as inconvenient, inappropriate or amusing – simply ridiculous.
We learn that anger makes us annoying and troublesome, and that our anger will put people off—both those who will hire us and those we want to date. ... and therefore we become world masters at fearing, ignoring, hiding, trivializing or suppressing anger.
And we can no longer do this during menopause, when everything becomes extra fragile. But... maybe it's not just hormonal, maybe you actually have something – real – to be justifiably angry about in your life?
www.drnorthrup.com/why-anger-is-common-during-menopause/